1. Working spouse: With everyone working in MNCs, boys look for a person who understands their work demands and often prefer someone from their workplace itself. In fact, I’ve seen more than 10 couples so far both working in Microsoft. With nuclear families and rising prices in realty sector, additional income is also welcome by today’s couples.
2. Work-life balance: The above point however immediately calls for some more truths and adjustments, and many boys are not that comfortable with them either. For example, many of them feel that if the spouse is working, then the coveted homely ambience is lost with office pressures and home no more symbolizes an amiable, soothing place. Also, a lot of them feel that with kids should never miss the family atmosphere. So if you love your career too much, it’s better that you go for a boy who prefers point1 more than point 2.
3. Shopping (read men’s nightmare): I remember the scene in Pyar ke side effects where all the hubbies are with their wives in a shopping mall. Everytime any lady says ‘honey how’s this curtain/sofa/chair looking?’, the guy says ‘It’s nice!’ Seriously, the time we’re dating/ at a courtship period, shopping at a mall is often the only time we get to meet you and all is hunky dory. However, this goes for a toss after we start a life with you. For us it was like that I never knew the world of fashion and makeup and dress colors that much. Since Anamika is a quick shopper listens to my advice in such matters (albeit to decide what not to do), I’m happy shopping with her as long as it’s maybelline and not d’damas. However, if you spend like 4 hours to get the exact shade of jeans/ nailpolish/ sandal and checkout like 12 shops to get the perfect price, I pity the poor guy.
4. A friend: As I said before, we’ve nuclear families today and both men and women love company of friends – like minded people who can share their feelings. When I get back home, Anamika loves to blabber what all Nims and Rentu and Anju have to say while I’m too eager to share what all happened @ my office. In fact, we both know each others’ professional lives pretty well to the extent that there’s nothing that I cannot share with her. Hence, I never feel that I need a friend other than her just to share something (or that she’ll not understand anything). Trust me girls, it’s an awesome feeling and if you still think that ur boy/hubby’s work life is their headache, think again! May be you’re missing out a good friend there…
5. Home minister: Girls! By definition men are not born creative. We can think straight, in windows default 16 colors and solve maths problems for you. However, it’s you who have to take the initiative (mind it! the “initiative” and not do the complete work alone) for deciding how to make your house more beautiful, what all to keep and where and ultimately how to keep the ambience lovely. Also, the worklife of both of you also implies how various household affairs are to be managed. If you are too teeny weeny about how to decide this and that and eventually need a third person to tell you how to go about it, wake up miss! No freedom/ privilege comes without responsibility. You may’ve had princess like spoonfeeding at your home, no guy is superman and you need to take up some responsibilities so that things go smoothly.
I hope this was not a shock … It’s like that we’re all ready to take up your mood swings, your whims and listen to alll your complaints about what your best friend said about you… but at times we also need the same! Today’s men are metro/retrosexuals and have good EQ. So keep yourself in your boyfriend/ hubby’s shoes before you start bombarding them with your expectations! And thou shall have a wonderful life