I really don’t know what to write here so forgive me if you find the words a little incoherent. Everything has been said about the ever-increasing rape incidents in India. I’m shocked to hear about so many rape cases these days.
During my school and college days, I heard of such cases but not this frequently. Nowadays, rape has become ‘normal’. We read about at least one case daily and even though it angers us, we have probably become immune to such news. It doesn’t shake us anymore.
Such cases earlier were reported usually from villages and small towns and most crimes took place at night. But now there is not even a single place, where rape has not been reported, be it schools, colleges, hostels, homes and offices. Again there is no ‘safe time’ for girls.
Badaun rape case angered India last month but within a week there was the case of a minor girl raped in Greater Noida. Two more cases were reported the same day.
Where is a girl safe?
And now even the schools are not safe, not even the so called ‘elite’ ones. Recently a six year old girl was raped in an ‘international’ school in Bangalore by school staff. This is just too scary.
Parents trust schools to take care of their kids. People have already lost trust on servants and even relatives. Now who should one trust?
These incidents frighten every Indian. We cannot heave a sigh of relief even if we send our kids to the best of institutions. Loss of trust is not a good thing for humanity but now the phenomena is ubiquitous.
We talk about technological advancements but our minds are going backwards. Rape has become a way to show power ( remember the comments of a certain leader in West Bengal?)
Where are We Heading?
When I and my sister used to go to school and college, my mom was not much worried but now she remains in panic-mode even for my brother. She keeps advising me about safety measures over phone.
I get worried when my sister-in-law becomes even a little late. Where are we heading?? To the times of ruthless invaders?
The Unsafe Place
I have lived in Germany and did not want to come back. Safety and independence were my top reasons for not wanting to return. I never saw any guy staring at any girl, leave alone passing obscene comments. And we know the kind of clothes, girls wear in these countries.
I even stayed alone for a month there when hubby had to go to another country. I used to go to my language classes and return after 8 PM. The streets were deserted but I never felt scared even for a moment.
People say that it is time government did something. I agree that we need an alert and trustworthy security system. But are even the police stations safe? Due to a few bad people in our police force, we eye all of them with suspicion. And such fears materialize a lot. Criminals are not scared of police these days, only common people are.
And who can ignore the never ending court-cases?
The Cause and Solution
According to me the problem lies in the patriarchal system of India. We don’t teach simple things like respecting a girl to our boys. Girls should not be dependent on a man to protect them.
Why do we need someone else to protect ourselves?
I am not advocating a matriarchal system but it will be best if we educate our boys. This according to me is the only solution that will result in an equal society where no one has a reason to worry about the safety of girls or even boys for that matter.
How safe do you feel? Please share your thoughts and possible solutions.
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