What Makes An Ever Lasting Relationship
As my favorite writer Oscar Wilde said, “Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”
Yes, love- the magical word which has the capability to melt the toughest of souls.
Some people come into your life, and you just know that you’ll never be able to replace them if they leave. Being in a relationship is much more than hugging and kissing, the dates, the selfies or showing off. It is about being with someone who makes you happy in a way that no one else can.
Don’t ever be embarrassed being yourself in front of that person. Don’t make yourself someone you are absolutely not when you are with him/her. Be with someone who brings out the best of you and enhance your own personality. Be real, love and respect yourself and they will love and respect you too.
Trust and respect
These are two support pillars a fantastic relationship must have. Make them feel wanted, feel loved and adored. These are the two easiest things in life to loose and the hardest things to get back.
Understand and communicate
“Behind the need to communicate, there is a need to share. Behind the need to share, is a need to be understood.”
Understand each other, understand your differences. Communicate; a lot of problems will disappear if we talk to each other than about each other.
Leave your past in the past
If you carry bricks from the past relationship to your new one, you will build the same house. Those are just pasts, and there are reasons why they are in the past and not in the present.
Individual space is very important. You got to have other hobbies than just being romantic. Give him some “he” time and give yourself some “you” time as well. Go out with your friends; spend time outside with and also without each other.
Be cautious with your words
Don’t ever mix bad mood with bad words. Remember, once the words are spoken, they can’t be taken back.
Don’t over think
Over thinking is very injurious to a relationship’s health. If something is worrying you, talk frankly about it instead of keeping it to yourself and making your own imaginary stories.
Last, but definitely not the least is to love unconditionally. I have seen couples where mere fights lead to breakups. If you guys love each other unconditionally regardless of the fights, regardless of the pasts, regardless of people spreading rumors, if you guys still trust each other and love each other, no force on earth can pull you two apart. So, love unconditionally.
It all starts from the very beginning, the moment that person comes into your life. Maybe you were afraid of taking the step, but with patience and time, trust will develop and love will deepen. Communicate, be unpredictable, and be giving with no assumption of receiving anything back, because when he/she is good, overtime, the good will happen to you too which will bring whole new colors to your life. Don’t forget to keep it fair, because with strong foundation you don’t have to worry about cheating and arguing on petty issues. Remember, all the little things matter.
Relationships last long because two people make a choice to keep it, fight for it and work for it. A healthy balance of trust, comfort, understanding, love, honesty and respect is the key to a healthy ever-lasting relationship.
Do you agree with these secrets of an ever lasting relationship?
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