Mine was a love marriage but after we both took approval from our family my in laws came to see me.I am quiet a confident girl and I have given so many presentations in front of 100 people during my MBA but when my in laws came to see me I got cold feet.When my bhabhi asked me to come over and take tea for them I refused as I was horribly nervous and then she thought of serving it by her self..My Bhabhi who is a mother of two kids when served them tea , my in laws got shocked thinking that she is the girl.:D
What I mean is that it is not easy for a girl to go through this tea taking ritual in front of her potential in laws.Especially if you do not know the guy thenÂ trying to impress so many people is more difficult.One of my friend whose parents made her meet 2-3 guys one day called me and was upset about the fact that three guys have refused her.It certainly hurt when your parents are looking for a groom for you .TheyÂ spend so much of money in arrangements andÂ the guy comes and refuses the girl.But one should not get emotional and think of marrying any one who her parents believe is right.
Below are few tips for the girls whose parents are looking for a groom for them .
1.I use to think that no guy will be interested in me before my marriage because of no reason at all.These kinds of feeling just surrounds a girl without any reason.May be there can be a reasonÂ but even boys have flaws and it is not only you in the world who have flaws.So never underestimate yourself and keep the faith alive even if you have seen 20 boys.God has made some one some where for you and sooner or later he will enter into your life and you won’t even realize it that time.
2.When you talk to the boy don’t be too open and neither too shy.Tell him what is must for you in a relationship and ask him about it.For example, one of my friend just can not marry a guy who drinks and smoke.This is her priority and therefore these important thing should be talkedÂ when you meet for the first time.
3.All in laws have high expectations from the girl but be honest.If you do not like cooking then say it clearly.If you say yes even when you don’t like itÂ then you will have to prove this all your life.Instead of saying a complete No just tell them that you are not that fond of cooking butÂ if it is required you can do it.
4.Don’t try to create some other image of yourself of what you are not.If you are an outspoken girl then there is no need to show that you are very shy and introvert girl.If you like to wear jeans and short dresses and it will hurt you if you are not allowed to wear them afterÂ marriage then let them know this before the relationship goes to a next level.
5.If you have any medical illness then let the guy know.I know most of the family members generally say not to disclose thisÂ but it is always better otherwise you may to listen to many bad things after marriage.Don’t forget to ask the guy same about his health condition6.I and my husband have almost same taste.We both like watching movies and playing indoor and outdoor games.Our hobbies have helped us a lot in keeping our relationship interesting.It is better to ask the person about his or her hobbies.Hobbies helps you know what kind of a person the other person is.
7.You can also ask career prospect and what ahead the boy is thinking in his life.
8.In India girl do not marry the boy butÂ the whole family of the boy so do notice the family behavior.No matter if you are going toÂ live in another country or another state with the guy alone they will become part of yourÂ family sooner or later.So do question yourself weather you will be able to spend 20-30 years of life with them.
Do take your time.It is not only the boys decision which matters.Even if all your family members like the guy you should go with your gut feeling because after all it is the matter of your whole life.Parents decision is important as they have more experience than you but it is you whole is going to face it all.So be confident and don’t underestimate yourself.
So do prepare your question to asked before marriage 🙂
What question would you like to ask the boy before taking the decision .?
Will you completely go with your parents choice ?
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