How are you all at wiseshe… Oh boy! how life has changed…As a newÂ mother I really do want to share my experiences with you all.Â I am doing so in bits and pieces and when time and my health permits it.Â There are a few things that I want to share with all of you.Â These are the things that I experienced during my pregnancy.Â You know none of us are born with all of life’s wisdom and so when life throws oranges at us, its not always possible to make orange juice!
Some people have an idea about what to expect during pregnancy and are quite, well, Â lets call it bindaas withÂ answers toÂ their counterparts.Â Â This is not the case with all of us.Â I was purturbed with lots of issues/questions when I was expecting.Â Pregnancy has all of our hormones in a twist and it is at this time that most women become very sensitive as well.Â There is apprehension, fear of the future and unknown, weight issues, family pressures, health issues and mental stress as well.Â For those of you who are experiencing motherhood and for those of you who are going to, I am giving you an idea of some of the silly things that people say and hopefully that will give you enough of time to plan an appropriate answer.
1. Oh my gosh you’ve gained alot of weight!!!
We all gain weight during pregnancy.Some weigh a little more than normal andÂ some less so please it hurts when people talk about it and compare their weight with yours and also speak of the baby bump like it was a sack of cement we are carrying around. I am pregnantÂ and weight is a sensitive issue.Â Let’s not discuss thisÂ now!
2. Are you having twins?
A friend of mine was pregnant and had quite a big belly.Â She was askedÂ if she was havingÂ twins.Â She was almost in tears, come on!Â If she is having twins she will surely tell you.Â It may seem like a simpleÂ statement but peopleÂ do not realise,Â it hurts.
3. Oh! I hope you have a boy!
Now why inÂ world would you say such a thing?Â Are you aware ofÂ what I want?Â Not all of us want boys and not all of us want to discriminate against the fairer sex.Â I for one love girlsÂ more than boys and God has blessed me with my hearts desire.
4. Was your baby planned?
Now, this totally baffles me.Â I don’t know why people ask this question and then wait for a detailed explaination.Â Planned or not,Â it’s our baby and I found this question too personal!
5.You look so sick!
Gosh this is like the worst thing to hear at this time!!!
6. I was able to shed all myÂ pregnancy weight in just 2 weeks.
For your kind information this is not aÂ competition.Â I’ve just given birth to a human being that needed to be in a cozy environment for 9 months!
7. How will you manage everything after the baby comes?
Â Umm ya well, I amÂ aware of the future and the responsibilities that lie ahead of me.Â You pointing it out is not going to ease my burdens unless you are signing up to be my house maid!
8. Women sharing their worst labour experience!
It doesn’t matterÂ what you went through and nor did I ask for a detailedÂ description of it!Â Not everyone can take anothers trauma and instead of it doing any good, it kinda makes you weaker and paranoid.Â None of us need this at this time.
So well, there you go….some of the quirky things that people say to pregnant women…..It may make you laugh but it hurts many times……In the end all’s well that ends well !!!
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